Britanny, I am sorry for your friends.
What I meant, and expressed untactfully, is that what they were doing was the same kind of thing that most of us here did at that age.
Unwise things. Silly things where we did not give a thought to the hazards involved - even though the danger would be readily apparent to most adults. To us, the biggest danger seemed to be that our parents might find out.
Brittany, I'm sure you understand our loved ones were no danger at all.
In a recent article in a bike mag Urban Velo, Andy White talked about breaking his neck. The doctor told him that he (the doc) had treated someone earlier that day with the exact injury.
Andy would walk again, ride a bike, and not be disabled. The other guy was paralyzed.
Both Andy and the doc thought about this: no one can give a good answer as to why one person walks away and another person has a life-shattering event.
No one has an answer to why your friends had this happen. The weren't doing anything out of the ordinary for 14 year-olds.
If it had happened a little differently, they would laugh about it. When they were older, they might have had a good story when their sweethearts asked them "Hey, where did you get that scar?"
That is what usually happened to most of us when we were young and did unsafe things.
Why is it different for Marissa and Sidney?
I don't know.
No one can give me a good answer about why your friends had a horrible thing happen to them.
I'm sure that they, and their parents, brothers, sisters, friends will think a lot about this. Some of them will agonize over the questions of "What if they had done it like this? What if they had done it like that?"
I don't see any answers to those questions, though. "What if...?" is like a fairy tale, an impossible dream.
Even though the fairy tale of being able to go on like nothing happened is what usually happens.
Britanny Nicole, I'm truly sorry your friends traumatized like that.
I used the language that I did, because most of us have done far more hazardous things. The behavior that led to the accident isn't differnt from dumb things we have laughed about.
The outcome is different. And it makes me want to cry.
Please accept my apology.
Mick